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Brian Wickham's avatar

This really hit home! I am experiencing the same thing with my wife. I am still learning how to deal with it and your advice is making it so much easier for me to understand the situation we are both in. Thank you!

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Lucia Cordell Getsi's avatar

Hi Elizabeth, long time, and I don’t know how your newsletter popped up with your name and I went. Oh I am 80 and I need to read that from Elizabeth after spending a good 12 years of my life dealing with two family dimension cases, and now now wondering if my brain is not also going in that direction. My experience is that everybody’s dementia is different from anybody else’s. And caregiving is very different because each personality is different. But this is a beautiful essay. It is exactly right. I’m in Illinois at the moment and thinking about moving back here. I’m sick of living in a red state. But I also I’m not sure I can move back to Illinois because now I am swimming in memories that are swimming in me. Where are you now? I’m on Facebook and you can message me. And I have the same email address at ISU that I have always had since 1986 when email began.

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Jena Schwartz's avatar

Such a welcome and yes, very resonant post. Thank you.

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sandra jamieson's avatar

thank you. I and some colleagues are navigating this path as we interact with a former colleague and I think they will find this advice very helpful. I'm sorry you are learning this in such painful ways. May your father keep that humor!

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